A Reminder…

Hello all,

Yes, it’s Friday and the weekend is officially arriving!

Just a little reminder for my regular followers and those new to my blog about my Facebook page. I post regular articles and extra pieces of information related to epilepsy which you won’t find at this location.  Be sure to check it out and ‘Like’ – let’s raise awareness and erase the stigma!

https://www.facebook.com/FindingFreedomwithEpilepsy/?fref=ts

Have a great weekend!

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When You Reach Breaking Point…

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Yes, I’m not ashamed to admit I reached breaking point last week.  As with so many things in life when there are all sorts of events continually piling up day after day you arrive at a place where you just have to stop.  I couldn’t continue in that vein any more, there is only so long you can survive until you burn out, and burn out emotionally, physically and mentally I did.

It was the universe telling me I needed to stop, take a break and put myself first.

Now putting yourself first is an interesting one because there is a balance that needs to be found.  My most predominant role is as a home maker at the moment (alongside writing, advocating for epilepsy, volunteering, preparing to start a business (once I can work) and studying) plus I’m getting married a week Sunday.  One of the greatest privileges of my life is that I get to look after the house, the chores that go with that and I get to take care of my beau. Yes, I used the word privilege and I can hear the gasps from the staunch feminists out there who must think my ideals very backwards – how could I possibly get enjoyment from these things?! Yes, I may have old fashioned values but I’m a modern woman at the same time.  However, as far as I’m concerned my family and family life comes first.  As an fyi, homemaking is highly underrated!

After a stern talk from the person who possesses the greatest amount of wisdom I know (yup, that would be my mum), whilst I was a little surprised at the insistence of her instructions, I felt I really should take heed.  Unsurprisingly, she was spot on; after all, she is the person who knows me best.

So, as I write this I am in Vancouver and I am sat at a desk in my room in a hotel.  I am in a hotel that is not where I live and I am in a city which isn’t my home.  I am totally on my own and I am completely devouring the solitude I’m immersed in.  That was the magical key.  Oh and yes and I have indulged.

A friend, who was unable to make my bachelorette travelled up with me and we went to a spa treating ourselves to a massage and a foot reflexology session and it was heaven.

I’m not someone who would normally up sticks and embark on such a decadent trip, oh and by decadent I mean I’m staying at a Holiday Inn before you get too excited by my escapades!  A pat on the back to me though because this hotel room really is top notch, but in all seriousness, it is decadent for me because there has never been an excess supply of money to be able to invest in such luxury really ever but as it’s my wedding, savings ahoy!  Aside from that though, I’ve been spending time at the US Consulate organizing visas so there is a purpose in this trip.  Normally this would have worked out with me sleeping on very generous friend’s couches and floors but my instructions were such that as I am getting married I therefore push the boat out a little and relax, so hotel with spa and here I am.

What I’ve been reminded of is solitude is so important.  Whilst I could be writing at home and I can relax at home, there are always distractions; I could/should be doing something.  There are dishes to wash, laundry to do, I really should do the housework, I need to complete this or organize that, the list is endless.  Here in my hotel room there is nothing of mine except a small blue suitcase with my clothes, toiletries and shoes.  It’s just me, myself and I.  That’s what I needed, to find peace in solitude and to just let go.

I am not for one moment saying I will be doing this once a week as it is certainly not required.  However, with numerous months of stress having built up, it reached a crescendo and I had to take action, I’m just grateful someone knew what action to take as this certainly wouldn’t have been my first thought!

With the time being 6:30pm, I’m now thinking about dinner, perhaps a little Thai food as a treat.  I check out for home tomorrow but not before another massage and some foot reflexology to prepare me for the train journey home.  I shan’t feel guilty about it because I have a loving future husband to go back to who I am going to take care of and love like he wouldn’t believe – the bonus?  He’s going to appreciate it more because I am calm and have a much greater amount to give him.

 

Quote of the Day

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And sometimes not even a lifetime will suffice.

My old Monday posts ‘Beautiful Words’ showed the beauty of language, but as with everything there is another side.  Words have power and if not used in the right way they can be hurtful and cruel.  An awareness of how one uses words and the tone in which they are expressed is critical to convey the correct message.

Those with epilepsy often find themselves isolated, upset and angry due to, at times, flippant remarks or unkind and thoughtless comments.  It can be one of the hardest aspects of epilepsy to live with.  We have control over our attitudes but we don’t have control over others and their actions.  That being said, we do have control over our responses to those actions.

The key to this is: think before you speak.

 

 

Embracing Change = New Doors Open

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As we slowly weave our way into August, 2016 seems to be the year of change for me.  It has brought many wonderful opportunities for travel, communication and reuniting with family alongside the contrast of the loss of a friend and the termination of a very significant personal relationship.  Fulfilling commitment is on the agenda not only with my own marriage but also having been part of my best friend’s too.  Some of these prospects have disguised themselves and become known through other endeavors, but it is all about grabbing those opportunities with both hands, and to use one of my favorite phrases, embracing change.  This is why I have decided to shake up my blog a little.

Mondays, when they would allow, would be word of the day, but I have now decided to post a quote of the day.  As my life evolves, so does my blog.  It’s vital to prevent all aspects of life from going stale and this is why I feel a quote would be of more value to you, my readers.  You may resonate with it, ruminate over it and perhaps it may change the course of your day or it may not.  Life has a strange way of presenting just what you need at the right time.  And with that being said, I find that the perfect introduction to the exciting new venture that’s in store for me.

I was approached by the website www.healtheo360.com to write on a regular basis about epilepsy and what it’s like to live with on a daily basis, achieving the basics that we all need to do.

I perused the website and not only is it a wonderful resource for epilepsy; it also covers a multitude of other conditions that can be experienced as minor or severe.  It is a vat of information and includes articles by researchers to videos by professionals.  The other aspect that I found very appealing was that there were real people with real stories.  They are the people who live it every day and are not just the professionals who know their craft but haven’t experienced it first-hand.  I urge you to check it out even if you are reading this blog and you don’t have epilepsy. It’s a fantastic place to find support.

Whilst I haven’t written just yet, I will be writing shortly.  Do come and visit, ask questions or send me an email, who knows, you may just find you’re looking for…

Remember, She’s There…

There is so much to think about, so much to do, things to be worrying about, people to be taking care of and we’re so focused on these aspects of life which, yes are important, but it’s also just as important not to lose oneself.  

I had this moment at my batchelorette this weekend. I was surrounded by some of my very closest friends who had organized an incredible day for me and over the past months I had forgotten about this little girl as there had been so many different events occurring and things that I had to achieve. 

So, for those in the same boat, what a better way to start a Monday than to find your inner girl or boy, remember what that feels like and then change how you approach your week.

Happy Monday!